I once had a woman tell me that she had the best sex of her life, with a guy that she didn’t even like. I had another woman tell me that she enjoyed casual dating. She liked living the lifestyle of having great sex, without the commitment or the responsibility. But what happens when people start to catch feelings? What happens when your friend meets somebody else and your little arrangement is over? You get jealous, and you begin to realize that you’ve had feelings for him after all. So now, the magic question is, how do you get him to be yours. You’re going to have to cast a love spell.
What is friends with benefits?
Friends with benefits is a mutual agreement between two people to have sex, without all the aggravation and stress that comes with being in a real relationship. However, this idea of thinking is an illusion. Why? Well, because all sexual encounters are relationship encounters. Relationships are mirrors of the soul. So we get into relationships to learn about ourselves, and/ or to help the person we are with to heal a certain wound. In fact, the reason why we all crave sexual intimacy, is because it releases some of the piled up pressure of living an overly stressful life. Sexual intimacy also sedates us and stimulates us in much the same way that love does. In my other article “How to find your soul mate?” I talked about how our bodies emit certain feel good hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and vasopressin when we’re bonding and/or having sex.
Friends with benefits definition
So every emotion comes equipped with a chemical reaction. For example, when you get angry, your body starts to emit heightened levels of adrenaline. And every chemical reaction has an emotional counterpart. So when your having really great sex, the hormones begin to trigger your emotional memory. Yes, your emotional memory. It is the longest lasting memory in your body. While both your short-term and long –term memories fade over time, your emotional memory keeps going, and going, and going…. Much like the energizer bunny. Even people who suffer from mental disorders such as dementia, Alzheimer’s, and schizophrenia have a strong emotional memory. So when you trigger this emotional memory, one or two things happen. The first, is that you start to remember the times when you were in love. As a result of this, you’re going to begin to attach those feelings to the person you’re having casual sex with.
Best friends with benefits
The other thing that happens when you have sex, and release all of these hormones, is that you trigger your emotional pain body. Your emotional pain body is a subconscious pool of energy that you draw from whenever you’re hurt or distressed. So how does this work? Well, you just got out of a bad relationship. You’re not totally over your ex yet, but you long for the intimacy and excitement that comes with having sex. So, you decide to have sex with Joe, after all he’s a good guy. It’s nothing serious, until one day, Joe calls you and breaks it off. He’s says that he found the woman of his dreams, and it wouldn’t be fair to her to keep a side peace. So what do you feel? Anger. Rejection. Disappointment. This is when you trigger the emotional pain body, and begin to feel both the pain from being rejected by Joe, and the other guy who you believed dumped you from before. Now, depending on how bad your pain body is, you might go and slash Joe’s tires. You might go and scratch his car, and bust out his window shields. Why do you do this? It happens because the emotional pain body has risen up and taken over. In African derived religions, they would call this process a demonic possession.
FWB rules
From my experience, I’ve found that people who get involved in FWB relationships, have deep seated issues and trauma that they have yet to deal with. Other people come up with all of these rules that friends need to abide by. They believe that they have a mutual understanding, that everything will be okay. Sadly, the emotions within your body that triggers certain hormones would say otherwise. Now, you’re probably thinking, I know a lot of people who have casual sex without catching feelings. The truth of the matter is, I know these people too. Sadly, many of them use sex as their main form of intimacy, because they truly have a difficult time opening up to people, and making a real connection.
Can a casual relationship become serious?
The answer to that question is yes. However, in order for you to find love outside of yourself, you must first find the love that stems from within. You can do this with crystals and stones. I recommend that you use either black tourmaline, or ruby quartz crystal. Why stones? We can use stones because they’re great at absorbing and storing negative energy. Just think about a black tourmaline stone holding as much space as a 1tp hard-drive. You can then begin to download negative energy into the stone. This will help you deal with an overpowering pain body. Now negative energy must always be balanced with positive energy. If there is a dis-balance between the two, degradation might set in. So I suggest that you use the topaz stone to counterbalance this energy. Topaz is mostly used to instill self-love and spiritual enlightenment.
You can buy the black tourmaline stone necklace and wear it around your neck at night time, to absorb negative energy. When you wake up, you can place the stone on your altar. Then, you can wear the ruby quartz stone around your neck throughout the day. This is a energetic cleansing process that works very much like a set of batteries. We place the plus in minus batteries opposite each other, to generate a spark. You have to do this on yourself first. Why, because all change starts within you. Once you start to change your energy, your “friend” will be so much more attracted to you. This way, you can stop wasting time, having meaningless sex, and start to have something that is truly magical and genuine.
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